The Silent Killer Behind Manager Burnout (and How to Fix It)

One of the most common refrains I’ve heard from managers this year is some version of this:
“I’m drowning.”

Their calendars are crammed with back-to-back meetings. Their inboxes are bottomless. They start the day with a plan, but end it wondering where the time went. And despite all that activity, the real work—building the team, thinking strategically, driving the mission forward—gets pushed to the margins.

Here’s the truth: overwhelm is not the disease. It’s the symptom. The disease is a team that hasn’t been built to carry the load.

The Real Reason You’re Overwhelmed

Most managers assume they’re overwhelmed because there’s simply too much work. That’s rarely the case.

The real reason: they’re still holding too much of it themselves—tasks, approvals, conversations, decisions that should live with the team.

And why isn’t the team stepping up? Not because they lack talent or care. Usually, it’s because the manager hasn’t created the conditions for them to do so confidently.

• Outcomes aren’t clearly defined.

• Permission to run with things hasn’t been given.

• Or, most commonly, they’ve signaled—often unintentionally—that mistakes won’t be tolerated.

The result? A team that waits to be pushed, and a manager who spends every day firefighting instead of leading.

The Activity Audit

One of the simplest ways to break this cycle is through what I call an Activity Audit: a brutally honest snapshot of how you’re actually spending your time.

For 3–5 workdays, write down every single thing you do. Meetings. Slack messages. Emails. Approvals. Decisions.

It works like a food log: once you track it, patterns you couldn’t see before become obvious. At the end of the week, review your list and ask:

1. Which of these should never have been on my plate in the first place?

2. Which of these could someone on my team handle—if they had the context, clarity, or confidence?

Most managers discover a surprising portion of their time is consumed by work that either shouldn’t be done at all, or shouldn’t be done by them. That’s your delegation roadmap.

Leadership Is About Building Carriers, Not Carrying More Yourself

Delegation isn’t just about freeing up time. It’s about building trust, confidence, and capacity in your team. It’s about ensuring progress continues—even when you’re not in the room.

That starts with clarity. Define success. Give explicit boundaries where they own decisions. And when they bring you problems, resist the urge to solve them. Instead, redirect:

• “What would you do?”

• “What feels like the right next step?”

And when mistakes happen, treat them as learning opportunities—not reasons to take control back.

A Different Kind of Leadership Challenge

If you’re constantly underwater, it’s not proof you’re failing. It’s proof you’re still holding too much.

Run the Activity Audit this week. See what it reveals. And then wrestle with the real question:

What would need to be true for my team to carry more of this load without me?

That’s the shift from manager to leader. Not carrying more yourself, but building a team that carries the mission with you.

Cheers,
Jeff